I hear this saying (or some derivative of it) quite frequently: "You're not interesting unless you're interested." Taken at face value, it's a legitimate claim. It seems to hold true in many cases, too.
Recently, I saw this quote posted:
"To be interesting, be interested. Ask questions that other person will enjoy answering. Encourage them to talk about themselves and their accomplishments."
I can't help but feel like this has taken the original sentiment and turned it into a manipulative game where you're not really interested in the person, but you fake it to try to get the person to find you interesting. I wonder how easy it is for people to tell when you're genuinely interested in them, and not just asking them questions in hope that they'll find you interesting as well.
I'd rather be honest and ask things that I'm curious about, and if it turns out that what I've got to offer just isn't very interesting to the other person then so be it.
Posted by aoshi at November 6, 2007 12:30 AM | TrackBack