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My parents are having really bad marriage problems and they are on the verge of a separation.  They have been married for over 35 years now.  My dad says that they don't enjoy their time together anymore and that he hasn't been able to tell my mom he loves her in years.  Their marriage has been hurting and they have needed marriage help for a very long time now. They stayed together because of me and my brother but now that we are in college, they are ready to call it quits.  They have separated twice before - once when they were very young and sort of another time about 15 years ago when my dad had an office outside of town and was away a lot (but I wasn't aware they were separated so it wasn't a "real" separation.)  My mother feels that my dad doesn't treat her properly and I think this has also built inside her over many years. She has told me and may brother, “I don’t know if I even want to save my marriage.” Ouch, that hurts!

My parents have agreed to marriage counseling to see if that can restore their relationship since they have a lot to lose if they do separate.  They are both 62 years old.  My brother and I convinced them to go for a few sessions to see if a counselor can solve their marriage problems.

In my opinion, I think they both need to change in order for their relationship to work.  My dad thinks he's always right and my mom is tired of putting up with the way she has been treated as a result of his personality.  I have been doing research on the Internet and found a marriage counseling alternative site. I think the CDs will be a better option for them than marriage counseling.