They are SO bad
Any of my long time readers will know by now that I am not a kid person. I don’t mind children. I have to say that right off the bat because I feel it would be too much of a homogenous statement to just lay on someone. I have no disdain for children, but I know I don’t want to have children just as much as some of my friends want them immediately. At this point in my life I look around and see that most of my friends either have kids of they are freaking out because they don’t yet. For many of them it is this big dream they have had ever since they were little and they never want to let go of the vision of the picket fence and dog in the yard. I on the other hand have no anxiety over the issue. I don’t think that I need to put any pressure on the issue right now because I don’t have an urge to find someone and I certainly don’t need any more stress in my life. I mean I am a professional, going to school, and trying to enjoy my life. The last thing I need are a couple of kids to take care of and another relationship to tend to on a constant basis.
I think the reasons for my lack of desire to have children are a bit obscure, and the reasons for my comfort with the single life goes back to my mother. She raised me from experience and not from a parenting book or the stereotypical model of women. My mother is a feminist and was a teenager when the sixties totally brought her out of the mothering model of the fifties. For her it is all about being a women who doesn’t need a partner, but it is much more important to be a woman who loves herself. I think that her messages, whether explicit or not, really sunk in to the way that I think. I have been raised to support myself, be strong with my convictions, and never take myself for granted. Though my mother had six kids and still managed to be an accomplished writer of feminist books, it was her choice and she let all of us know that from the beginning.
In my life I have many goals and acquaintances that have allowed me to feel confident in the track my life is on. I don’t ever want to look at my life and think that I have done something wrong or taken a path that is not right for me. At the same time I want to follow my heart in every moment. That is why I can feel confident that the choices I make every day will never let me down and won’t ever steer me wrong. So in the words of my mother I say good bye by saying, “Don’t ever listen to others when you didn’t ask for their opinion.”