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Romantic Addiction: Why Is It So Hard to Get Over Your Ex?

We all know breakups can be hard. But why? Even when a relationship ends with a fight, incompatibility, or cheating, we can still find it difficult to move on. Well, here’s something you can blame it on: your brain.

When you spend a large amount of time with an individual, both your body and mind will start forming neural connections. These connections are not easily erased, as your body and mind associate your ex with the “highs” you’ve shared. Psychologically, it’s easier to remember the good times over the bad ones. Even the smallest things can bring back a rush of feelings about your ex. Walking by places the two of you used to go, smelling a familiar scent, or even seeing sentimental items can intoxicate the brain with memories.

Also, when you’re stressed, your brain looks for immediate comfort. By desiring instant gratification, your brain ignores potential risks that may come along with it. Therefore, when you’re feeling overwhelmed, such as with schoolwork, your brain desires “contact comfort.” This gives you an urge to find your ex in the hope of feeling better. Although it may seem like a good idea at the moment, it may not be a good idea in the long run.

Now that we established the scientific reasons why it’s difficult to get over your ex, what are some scientific ways to get over your ex? Here are some tips:

  • Make new associations. Start making new memories to replace the old ones. Make new connections!
  • Take care of yourself. Don’t be stressed! You can avoid the urge to find “contact comfort” altogether.
  • Change your mindset. Although it may seem difficult, be positive and take the end as a new beginning.

So next time you’re stuck thinking about an ex, it doesn’t necessarily mean you want to get back together. It’s all just brain tricks!

Article by Jami Wang

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